Since I start a new job this coming school year and have been off all summer, I can't really think of any disagreements or conflicts that I currently experience at work. So a disagreement I am currently having is actually with my mom over wedding planning for my wedding. I informed her that I wasn't planning on having a videographer for my wedding because I wanted to use the money for a decorating idea I have. She is not very happy because she thinks the video is more important than the decorations. I told her I could have a family member video tape the wedding and such and it would be much more cheaper. After a couple of weeks we are still in a disagreement, and we often end up fighting over it when it gets brought up. One stragey I think I could use that would solve this disagreement is try to come up with a compromise to the disagreement, such has if they are willing to pay half of the videographer we'll pay the other half, and I'll still have money for the decorations. Another stratgey I could use tot solve this disagreement is try to see the situation through my mom's point of view. Instead of getting defensive, maybe I need to remain calm and compassionate, and maybe then we can come up with a solution without it ending in a yelling match.
Just curious if anyone ever had a problem like this before, and curious how you handled it, or any advice you can give me on how to handle this disagreement.
“Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.” ― Nelson Mandela
Friday, July 31, 2015
Friday, July 24, 2015
Communicating Evaluation
Looking at how I evaluated myself and how others evaluated me, one thing that kind of surprised me was realized that people described me at a people-orientated person. This surprised me because, I'm definitely a people person, and sometimes too trusting of others. I was surprised most that my mom and my friend who took the survey know it too. My friend always comments on how sometimes I'm too trusting of people, and I always blew her off, until someone I trusted "threw me under the bus" once and she was like "I told you so". I always thought being a people-oriented person was a good thing, but there are some negatives to it. This might affect my professional life because I may become too trusting, and it may hinder my judgment in situations when it comes to making professional decisions. It also might affect my personal life because I may get seriously hurt by someone I originally thought I could trust, and relationships could be ruined.
The another thing that did surprise me the most was the verbal aggression scale survey. I was considered significant by myself and by the people the evaluated me. I was surprised by this because under the description it talked about how I might cross the line and become argumentativeness. This actually kind of surprised me because I hate getting into arguments...I really try to avoid arguments, and I think sometimes just keep what I really want to say to myself, because I know it will either start an argument or make the argument even worse. This mindset might affect my professional work because I am back down if someone confronts me instead of standing up to them, and this might affect my personal life because I'm not given my full opinion, and thus may not get my say on topics or activities.
The another thing that did surprise me the most was the verbal aggression scale survey. I was considered significant by myself and by the people the evaluated me. I was surprised by this because under the description it talked about how I might cross the line and become argumentativeness. This actually kind of surprised me because I hate getting into arguments...I really try to avoid arguments, and I think sometimes just keep what I really want to say to myself, because I know it will either start an argument or make the argument even worse. This mindset might affect my professional work because I am back down if someone confronts me instead of standing up to them, and this might affect my personal life because I'm not given my full opinion, and thus may not get my say on topics or activities.
Thursday, July 16, 2015
Communication Differences
Looking at how I communicate with people of different culture, I don't think I communicate with them any differently than I do of someone from the same culture. If you would have asked me 5 years ago, I might have said yes because I was a very narrowed minded person when I started teaching. When I started teaching I thought everyone, students, colleagues, and families were are like I had growing up. I quickly realized that wasn't the case, and that people were greatly different from myself. I had to change the way I saw them, and change my way of communicating with them to be respectful. Instead of thinking of them as different, I had remind myself that just because they aren't like me, doesn't mean that I should treat them any differently then someone who is like me. I realized that if i let my personal biases and ideas come into my teaching, I wouldn't be able to form relationships with students, parents, and colleagues, that I have now.
Friday, July 10, 2015
TV Show Analysis
Brothers and Sisters: TV Show
Black Font: Assumptions
Red Font: What Actually Happened
Red Font: What Actually Happened
Characters are all family
Nora: Mother
William: Deceased Father
Sarah: Sister
Kitty: Sister
Tommy: Brother
Kevin: Brother
Justin: Brother
William: Deceased Father
Sarah: Sister
Kitty: Sister
Tommy: Brother
Kevin: Brother
Justin: Brother
Judging from the flashbacks that are happening, the father
has recently died
Father recently died of a heart
attack
They are concerned about the one character (Justin) that is
in the hospital
They are worried about Justin who
overdosed because he got a letter saying he had to go back to the Army to fight
in Iraq. Flashbacks show that the family was against him joining the Army in
the 1st place right after 9-11.
They have a family business that causes a lot of arguments,
may be in trouble/3 of siblings (Sarah, Tommy, and Kevin) work together in it
judging how they are going on a trip together and were in a meeting together/Got
excited over news they found while on their trip/family is all excited about
the findings
Father was hiding something. Sarah,
Tommy, and Kevin work together. Kevin is the lawyer for the company. Apparently
their father brought land in the desert, and they have no reason why. They were
excited because they found out that the land belonged to the Army and was worth
a lot of money. Enough money to save the family business
Apparently Sarah found out that
their dad had another child with his mistress and she tells the Kevin and Tommy
Girl (Kitty) in a relationships with co-worker…maybe involved
with another co-worker too? Love triangle
Male co-worker is involved with the
intern, not Kitty; although judging by the hug her gave Kitty after she told
him about how the Army called Justin back to fight in Iraq, they may have been
in a relationship in the past
Mom is worried about son over something/taking frustration out
by cooking (can tell by how she is kneading bread really hard)/crying in the
pantry closet
Worried over Justin going back to
war and losing him too after she just lost her husband
One brother doesn’t know anything about cars/apparently
messed it up and car is in shop. The another brother chases him for screwing up
He poured water into the engine
instead of the oil filter which caused the car to break down
Another daughter has a TV show judging by how she
interviewed someone in front of the camera/another female co-worker goes to the
boss about something the one daughter did, obviously jealous over something/girl
did something during the tape interview that she is apologizing for now. Can
tell by her disappointed and upset face as she’s talking about/she apparently
did a favor for the person she interviewed
Kitty is a political pundit on a TV
show, and is interviewing a senator. Senator asked Kitty not to bring up his
divorce in return of him doing her a favor. Kitty asked him to pull strings so
her brother didn’t have to go back to Iraq. Senator couldn’t do it, and that’s
why Kitty apologized. Senator thanks Kitty at the end of the show and offers
her a position on his staff.
Daughter is upset with male co-worker/one she is in a relationship
with, and now crying to male co-worker over the issue
Male co-worker tells his
girlfriend/inter that he thought Kitty bribed the Senator. Kitty confesses how
the first time Justin left, it broke the family up, and she’s afraid it’s going
to happen again, and she will be blamed for it. She admits she is scared for
her brother’s safety.
Family likes to drink, alcohol, wine and such in many scenes
Wine at meals, drinking in a bar
One brother (Kevin) is apparently gay about how he
approached another guy and looked about him
When car breaks down, Kevin says the
other siblings aren’t allowed to make gay jokes/comments; sleeps with a guy he
meets at a bar
Sister on TV (Kitty) doesn’t know how to cook judging by how
she was cracking open an egg and stirring with a whisk and burnt pie
When Kitty volunteers to help cook
for Thanksgiving, Nora comments on how she is not a very good chef. Justin
jokes as well when he sees her helping in the kitchen.
Another brother announces some excited news at the end of
the table with his wife. Judging by how the family reacted. They are expecting
a child
Tommy and his wife Julia are
expecting their first child
While doing this assignment, I realized that verbal
communication plays a vital role in understanding what is going on, but you can
also get messages and plot lines across from watching the interactions of the characters
and their facial expressions. However, I missed a major plot line of when Sarah
told Tommy and Kevin that they had another sibling. I thought they were just
arguing because of the land was useless. I think if I would watch this show on
a regular basics, I would know more about the family and what happened leading
up to this episode, so some of the plot lines would make more sense.
By doing this assignment, I learned that verbal
communication is needed to reinforce non-verbal communication. I also realized
that it is very easy to misinterpret non-verbal communication when you are
listening to the verbal communication. I think this is helpful for myself and
colleagues because we need to use non-verbal communication to reinforce our
verbal messages to ensure we are communicated clearing with families and
children.
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